A Throughout the developing years, an individual is influenced greatly by his experiences in the home.
The customs, attitudes, and interrelationships peculiar at home often derive from racial, ethnic social or religious influences.
Social and occupational activities are closely tied to parental interests and activities.
Educational progress depends to a great extent on the co-operative endeavours of parents and school personnel.
- Unless the counsellors, can interpret abnormal pupil behaviour in relation to family patterns of living, they may find it difficult to help a child or an adolescent adapt himself to another way of life
- Too often the young person becomes confused by or resents the conflict between home and out of-home standards of conduct.
- Causes of lack of parental discipline are:
- The rapid pace of modern living,
- Social and economic pressures,
- Loosely – organised family units
- Harassed parents are concerned about so many things that their children are permitted to or assume the right to do as they please.
- It becomes the school’s responsibility, during the relatively short school day, weeks, and year, to motivate these young people to develop self-control, assume appropriate responsibilities, and respect the rights of other people.
- When parents and school people cooperate in their efforts to benefit children, two objectives are served:
- Improved understanding of child nature
- Greater recognition of what a good education can do for a child.
Causes of Conflict between parents and The Counsellors:
According to Maria Piers, parent-teacher or parent – counsellor conflict can result from the presence of one or another of the following attitudes.
(1) Be afraid of the teacher,
(2) Think the teacher does not recognise or appreciate their efforts, or
(3) -feel the teacher doesn’t know how to handle their child.
The teacher may:
(1) Resent parents because of her own childhood experiences,
(2) Feel parents are to blame for all of-the child’s actions, and
(3) Assume an attitude of superiority toward parents.
In such situations parental counselling helps the parents to overcome these problems.
Parental Counselling helps parents in:
- Establishment of a healthy physical routine.
- Encouragement of obedience.
- Administration of appropriate punitive measures only when neither the parent nor the child is angry.
- Willingness to act decisively.
- Practice of consistency in disciplinary procedures.